The first time my grandson asked me how to spell a word, I answered so fast you would have thought I was competing in a spelling bee. I thought I was helping by correcting every mistake.

If he wrote “frend” instead of “friend,” I pointed out the missing letter. If he wrote “sed” instead of “said,” I quickly showed him the correct spelling.

My intentions were good, but soon I noticed a problem. Instead of trying a word independently, he began stopping and asking, “Is this right?” Sometimes he waited for me to spell the entire word before he wrote anything.

My help was making him less confident.

Three- and four-year-olds are curious, imaginative, energetic, and eager to understand the world around them. At this age, children are developing longer attention spans, expanding their vocabularies, learning to manage emotions, and beginning to recognize letters, numbers, patterns, and sounds.

Children between the ages of three and four are naturally curious, imaginative, and increasingly independent. They are beginning to ask more questions, tell longer stories, recognize familiar letters, and make connections between the books they hear and the world around them.

At this age, preparing a child to read should not feel like formal instruction. The most effective learning happens through play, conversation, music, movement, drawing, and shared stories. These enjoyable experiences help children develop the language, comprehension, sound awareness, and early phonics skills they will eventually use to become confident readers.

Have you ever told a child you were “all ears” and watched them immediately inspect the sides of your head?

I have, and that is exactly why I love idioms.

Idioms are expressions that mean something different from the actual words being used. Adults understand that “butterflies in your stomach” means feeling nervous or excited. A 4-year-old may picture tiny butterflies fluttering around near their belly button.

Honestly, that sounds much more interesting.

Between the ages of 4 and 5, children are entering an exciting stage of language development.